Look beyond the obvious...Connecting the Dots

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Have you ever had something happen that shifted your thinking so completely? Well turning 60 did this for me. Never had a birthday bothered me. This one was different. My mom had died earlier that year and I was no longer someone’s child. Had no idea this would set me off on a new way of looking at my life.

A funnel shapeThe whole of my existence up until now was about expansion. Learning and growing up to step out into the adult world to have a career, a marriage, family, home, more education travel, acquiring of experiences and goodies. To be a productive, contributing human being. All of you have your version of this. For me life looked like this, ….. an ever expanding ‘V’

A diamond shapeAt 60 I literally felt the V turn back on itself to begin to look more like a diamond with the top of the diamond being my eventually death. It was a jarring realization. And I knew it was time to travel lighter. Mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually.

Several years later, an article on the December Years by Reb Zalman (Full name Zalman Schachter Shalomi) explained why I felt the way I had on the birthday. 60 heralds the beginning of the last third of our lives. It’s a distinct developmental stage of life and is a time of integrating whole of our lives. No wonder it felt so big!

It’s into the exploration and discovery of this time I now focus my coaching and work. If you are wanting to walk this rich and rewarding time with awareness, please give me a call.

To a joyful 3rd Act! Mary

I have had the privilege and pleasure of experiencing this unexpected insight into my own personal and professional leadership journey with Mary as my coach and mentor. Fostering the right balance in a relationship, she centers the discussion and is able to bring forward meaningful questions that drive to the heart of the subject, yet convey a wisdom that I believe is remarkable. Mary's creative approach pulled my career, home life and creative self into a collaborative journey that was transformational for me. Thank you Mary, you are the best.

Eleanor - former Dean NAIT
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Seeking and finding delicious

Mary Johnson - Tuesday, January 08, 2019

Happy New Year All! Hope it's a great one for you!

Last year I felt somewhat rudderless. Usually my year has a theme. Some word or phrase or sentence that captures the essence of how I see and feel about the year ahead. The theme emerges rather organically rather than through some sort of deliberate process. I am always surprised and delighted at what shows up. Nothing came to me early or at any point during 2018. In many ways it was signalling a transition for me though I really didn't want to see that. Over a coffee, a dear friend of mine prodded me. "You've been writing a lot about letting go. Have you?" Good question! There wasn't tangible evidence that I have let go so much as aspects of my life were letting go of me. My work softened, relationships changed, people became ill, moved or died. The house got an unexpected emptying when the kids moved in this Fall. "I could never be a gypsy" was scratched off my 'never' declarations after our 7 week sojourn down east. Gypsying is rather fun!

Coming up to this year I did a check in. My energy is running low. My house is full of the new young family and, for the time being, no longer my refuge. Enthusiasms for things I've done before not really there. Clearly not a time I can push or conquer up something even if I wanted to. It was into this 'Oh dear!' space that my theme popped into my head.

"If it's not delicious, it's NO!"       

As soon as it came to me I felt this incredible sense of relief. I had given myself permission to say NO! The letting go thing I have so often alluded to was my wanting to do just this. Say NO to the things that for now feel heavy with obligation. Looking for delicious is starting to feed me. It's a being pulled toward rather than pushing way energy. And it's working! A mere 8 days into the new year and delicious has put in an appearance everyday. Sometimes several times a day. Unexpected letters, invitations to events I wouldn't have seen, good folks I haven't heard from in a while calling to get together. 

There has been a shift around saying NO. Some asks are an absolutely clear. With others it's looking for where the delicious resides. Or delaying until delicious can be felt. It's become kind of a game for me. What I know so far is that my life is taking on a slightly adventurous feel. With practice maybe even daring!! 

On my January calendar is a saying from Thich Nhat Hanh.

'Waking up this morning, I smile. Twenty-four brand new hours are before me.' 

 May 2019 be full of your version of delicious!

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