Look beyond the obvious...Connecting the Dots

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Have you ever had something happen that shifted your thinking so completely? Well turning 60 did this for me. Never had a birthday bothered me. This one was different. My mom had died earlier that year and I was no longer someone’s child. Had no idea this would set me off on a new way of looking at my life.

A funnel shapeThe whole of my existence up until now was about expansion. Learning and growing up to step out into the adult world to have a career, a marriage, family, home, more education travel, acquiring of experiences and goodies. To be a productive, contributing human being. All of you have your version of this. For me life looked like this, ….. an ever expanding ‘V’

A diamond shapeAt 60 I literally felt the V turn back on itself to begin to look more like a diamond with the top of the diamond being my eventually death. It was a jarring realization. And I knew it was time to travel lighter. Mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually.

Several years later, an article on the December Years by Reb Zalman (Full name Zalman Schachter Shalomi) explained why I felt the way I had on the birthday. 60 heralds the beginning of the last third of our lives. It’s a distinct developmental stage of life and is a time of integrating whole of our lives. No wonder it felt so big!

It’s into the exploration and discovery of this time I now focus my coaching and work. If you are wanting to walk this rich and rewarding time with awareness, please give me a call.

To a joyful 3rd Act! Mary

I have had the privilege and pleasure of experiencing this unexpected insight into my own personal and professional leadership journey with Mary as my coach and mentor. Fostering the right balance in a relationship, she centers the discussion and is able to bring forward meaningful questions that drive to the heart of the subject, yet convey a wisdom that I believe is remarkable. Mary's creative approach pulled my career, home life and creative self into a collaborative journey that was transformational for me. Thank you Mary, you are the best.

Eleanor - former Dean NAIT
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Be all I'm not

Mary Johnson - Sunday, November 11, 2018

Sunday is an extra special reflection time for me. I have some questions I pose to myself at the end of each week to capture the essence of what the week has been. Every once in a while there's a loud Bingo! While doing a stream of consciousness writing about 'My Joyful Life', I wrote to be all I am followed by to be all I am not. I stopped (not what you are supposed to do with this type of writing). It hit me. Hard! I don't go near the things I am not! They are weaknesses, not 'positive', can pull you down. Focusing on them dooms you to be buried there in the mud fixing something that can't be fixed. Or so say the current wisdom. 

The Bingo was what if I embraced the things I am not as heartily as the things I am? Rather than skirt, hide or diminish them,  I loudly declare who I am not! It felt like a missing piece for me. That whole other side of me that is not acknowledged for fear of not showing up as positive, chipper, go-getter. Yet all I am not defines me too! So here goes.

I'm an Extrovert and tend to love being with people. Yes! And now a days many people are not to my liking, crowds energy sucking and it turns out I often rather like my own company.

Generally I see or work hard to see the good or other possibilities in situations. And sometimes what shows up is just wrong, stupid or just not my worth time or energy so I turn away and don't engage. Turn off inane TV, unless expecting an emergency turn off your phone when we are having coffee. Please don't ask me to 'Share if you agree'.  

I  care about my family. A lot! But sometimes it's just all too much and I don't care - for a time.

Been married 40 years and have been a pretty good partner for the most part. The other part - I can be a bitch!

This isn't the whole enchilada but you get my drift. Saying any of this isn't something I want to debate. This is, well, 'is' stuff. The world doesn't always show up nice and either do I. Declaring there's a cranky, don't care, disengaged gal in there sometimes means I have a chance to make peace with her. Something I have been loath to do. I'm thinking this might just be a good thing.   

   

   

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