Look beyond the obvious...Connecting the Dots

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Have you ever had something happen that shifted your thinking so completely? Well turning 60 did this for me. Never had a birthday bothered me. This one was different. My mom had died earlier that year and I was no longer someone’s child. Had no idea this would set me off on a new way of looking at my life.

A funnel shapeThe whole of my existence up until now was about expansion. Learning and growing up to step out into the adult world to have a career, a marriage, family, home, more education travel, acquiring of experiences and goodies. To be a productive, contributing human being. All of you have your version of this. For me life looked like this, ….. an ever expanding ‘V’

A diamond shapeAt 60 I literally felt the V turn back on itself to begin to look more like a diamond with the top of the diamond being my eventually death. It was a jarring realization. And I knew it was time to travel lighter. Mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually.

Several years later, an article on the December Years by Reb Zalman (Full name Zalman Schachter Shalomi) explained why I felt the way I had on the birthday. 60 heralds the beginning of the last third of our lives. It’s a distinct developmental stage of life and is a time of integrating whole of our lives. No wonder it felt so big!

It’s into the exploration and discovery of this time I now focus my coaching and work. If you are wanting to walk this rich and rewarding time with awareness, please give me a call.

To a joyful 3rd Act! Mary

I have had the privilege and pleasure of experiencing this unexpected insight into my own personal and professional leadership journey with Mary as my coach and mentor. Fostering the right balance in a relationship, she centers the discussion and is able to bring forward meaningful questions that drive to the heart of the subject, yet convey a wisdom that I believe is remarkable. Mary's creative approach pulled my career, home life and creative self into a collaborative journey that was transformational for me. Thank you Mary, you are the best.

Eleanor - former Dean NAIT
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The Old Ones

Mary Johnson - Tuesday, July 25, 2017

Don't know if you're like me. You are blessed with a few old Aunties (and Uncles) still in your life. My mom's sister and my dad's sister are both still alive, along with my Godmother. They are 84, 88 and 93 respectively. I have many, many fond memories of each of them. These women were a huge part of my growing up. It's my turn to give back. Today was the day I took time to connect with each of them. And it's not so easy as popping by or picking up the phone.

My mom's sister, for example, is a recluse. She doesn't answer the phone and will not come to the door. She will answer an email. It is her window to the world. We had a lovely back and forth catch up. She's failing quite significantly. Doesn't want medical intervention. It's hard to read, even harder to accept. She's of sound body and mind. This is her choice. I would love to see her, give her a hug. It's virtual wishes and hugs only.

My dad's sister, on the other hand, has dementia. She was so particular about remembering life events such as birthdays and anniversaries, meticulous book keeper and a driving force behind umpteen volunteer initiatives. The whole rethink about how mentally handicapped children grow up and are educated here was changed by my Aunt and 2 of her friends, all of whom had children with Down's Syndrome. They formed Gateway Association. Through it they supported others in the same circumstances and lobby Government for changes. So much she should be able to contemplate and enjoy. Much of this is gone. When I go over, I am remembered in some sort of kind association. She smiles and is happy to see me. And has no real clue as to who I am. It's hard to stay for long. We travel the same territory over and over again.

My Godmother is 93 and hale and hearty. She lives a long way away from here. We had a wonderful catch up today regaling me with stories of her whole family and most importantly her 1 and 1/2 year old great grandson. It was a long wait for this precious wee soul! It's wonderful to connect with someone who still knows me from my birth. Can fill in some blanks from my early childhood. Someone who remembers my mom ......

While I am lucky to have them in my life, a part of me is sad. I would wish something far better for my 2 Aunts. Wish I could make a difference for them. Hope I do at some level. Yet really it's not what I want but what they need or are willing to accept. My Godmom, well she's my shining role model of aging well.

In the end, it's about what honours and shows love for these wonderful women! Too soon they will be gone.

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